Friday, February 12, 2010

Mid-Life Crisis: I guess it's official

People who know me well can tell you that I've been one to lock my psychological age at 26. In fact, I've been "26" for about nine years now, and the fact that people tell me that I look far younger than 39 seems to prove that age is all in the mind. Sure, I've been noticing more lines on my face, plus the onset of sagging cheeks, coupled with a few aches here and there, but I've otherwise never really felt my age. Not that I know what my age is supposed to feel like, but the words "I'm too old for this," never factored into the way I went about my life.

But lately I've been ill-at-ease of a different sort--more irritable, impatient, less motivated, easily distracted, lethargic. For someone who's predisposed to feeling this way, I can say with some authority that this new attack is really different.

So I've done a bit of research, including consulting with someone older, and have more or less confirmed that, yes, I am indeed going through the crisis of mid-life--the dreaded "male menopause"--and it's not fun. Well, I could have fun with it if I choose to, but I'm not choosing that right now. (Though, I could always write a story about an abstaining single gay man going through mid-life crisis, and it'll be a comedy whether I like it or not.)

The sources I've read mention not just the psychological causes, but also the biological causes, so there's the whole chemical thing that can't be controlled. Even if some experts say that there is no biological basis for mid-life crisis, I can always say, "Honey, it sure feels like it."

This poses a whole range of challenges for me and it'll only take supreme willpower to sail through the experience. Once source states that those who "associate their work with their identity" are more susceptible, which includes me. The sad part is, making comics has been a large part of my identity, so even my work on the sequel has been affected. Work on Zaturnnah in Manila is still ongoing, but has considerably slowed down.

How does that song go? "I'm going through changes..."

Time for me to find me.

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11 comments:

rudeboy said...

Kailangan mo na ang bato, Ding!

Carver said...

Honga, batong ihahampas sa noo. :P

maria said...

Darna!!! ay mali... Zaturnnah pala, he he he. May "Ding" kasi at may bato pa, ha ha! I could say welcome to the club but it won't help you. But I must say, I am indulging more in finding myself and my place in this world, slowing down some with work and trying to see people instead of places (though I love going places). You could think mid-life as a time for yourself and yourself alone... You've given yourself to so any people in the past, this time give this gift to yourself and enjoy. We're all here for you. Labs u Papa Carl.

Pon said...

hmm..regular physical something...yoga, qigong, or..kahit walking. basta regular. if its biological, then do something with the body. it is extremely essential. theory ko lang ;)

Carver said...

maria... Since this is just the beginning, I'm anxious to find out what would happen if all goes full swing. Should be interesting. :-P But that, dear, for the advice. As another friend said, I should go out more. Hugs!!

Pon... Yes, regular physical something should help. Endorphins are good. :-) Thanks.

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Cris Virgil said...

blogging shud keep you feel younger... continue blogging.. continue sharing... we don't grow younger...

im 19, and sooner maiexperience ko ring mga yan... just do things that will make u feel younger... hehehe

and yes... physical SOMETHING of course.. ^_^

Tisha said...

Just buy a Porsche and be done with it.:D

Anonymous said...

Carv,

It's just a REMINDER, or rather, INTIMATIONS OF MORTALITY. That sooner or later, our MORTAL COILS will go boooinkkk! Yes, Life is Short...but relax, you gonna live for a few more decades...


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